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Every morning leave your worries outside the gate because that's where they pick up the garbage

A beautiful verse

Slms

A beautiful verse I received via email. It was so relevant it was like someone was having a conversation with me, I couldnt believe it was Quraanic ayat..what other treasures are in the Quraan that I dont know about?

الأنفال
For, believers are those who, when Allah is mentioned, feel a tremor in
their hearts, and when they hear His signs rehearsed, find their faith
strengthened, and put (all) their trust in their Lord. (2) Who establish
regular prayers and spend (freely) out of the gifts We have given them for
sustenance: (3) Such in truth are the Believers: they have grades of dignity
with their Lord, and forgiveness, and generous sustenance. (4) Surat
Al-Anfal

Mashallah, Subhanallah!

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M4Life

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DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

Slms

A Beautiful article emailed to me (source unknon)

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M4Life

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During a marriage seminar, a woman asked a common question.

She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"

There was a large man sitting next to her so the presenter said,

"It depends. Is that your husband?"

In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that

it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer. EVERY relationship has a cycle.

In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse.

You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard.

In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience.

You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love...

Because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."

Think about the imagery of that expression.

It implies that you were just standing there;

doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades.

It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all),

touch is not always welcome (when it happens),

and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship,

but if you think about your marriage,

You will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love

and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking,

"Did I marry the right person?"

And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had,

You may begin to desire that experience with someone else.

This is when marriages breakdown.

People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside

their marriage for fulfilment.

Extramarital fulfilment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most obvious.

But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage.

It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.

You could.And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better.

But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON;

IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience.

It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love.

You have to "make" it day in and day out.

That's why we have the expression "the labor of love."

Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it takes WISDOM .

You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery.

There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse)

to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity),

there are also laws for relationships.

Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger,

certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger.

It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws,

the results are predictable. ..you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"...Not just a feeling .

Remember this always:

"God determines who walks into your life.

It is up to you to decide who you let walk away,

who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go."

Dont Worry, Be Happy!

Slms

"Worry a little bit every day and in a lifetime you will lose a couple of years. If something is wrong, fix it if you can. But train yourself not to worry. Worry never fixes anything."

Mary Hemingway
1908-1986, Author and Journalist

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m4life

The Rules for Being Human

The Rules for Being Human from

http://www.ummahunite.com/blogs_full.php?id=131

safeeyah | 2009-10-04 15:35:14

When you were born, you didn't come with an owner's manual; these guidelines make life work better.

1. You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it's the only thing you are sure to keep for the rest of your life.

2. You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full- time informal school called "Life on Planet Earth". Every person or incident is the Universal Teacher.

3. There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of experimentation. "Failures" are as much a part of the process as "success."

4. A lesson is repeated until learned. It is presented to you in various forms until you learn it: then you can go on to the next lesson.

5. If you don't learn easy lessons, they get harder. External problems are a precise reflection of your internal state. W hen you clear inner obstructions, your outside world changes. Pain is how the universe gets your attention.

6. You will know you've learned a lesson when your actions change. Wisdom is practice. A little of something is better than a lot of nothing.

7. "There" is no better than "here". When your "there" becomes a "here" you will simply obtain another "there" that again looks better than "here."

8. Others are only mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another unless it reflects something you love or hate in yourself.

9. Your life is up to you. Life provides the canvas; you do the painting. Take charge of your life, or someone else will.

10. You always get what you want. Your subconscious rightfully determines what energies, experiences, and people you attract; therefore, the only foolproof way to know what you want is to see what you have. There are no victi ms, only students.

11. There is no right or wrong, but there are consequences. Moralizing doesn't help. Judgments only hold the patterns in place. Just do your best.

12. Your answers lie inside you. Children need guidance from others; as we mature, we trust our hearts, where the Laws of Spirit are written. You know more than you have heard or read or been told. All you need to do is to look, listen, and trust.

13. You will forget all this.

14. You can remember any time you wish

M4LIFE

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